Comment to My Girl (Speed dating post) (via karmasummer)

Noregretsnoexcuses I can feel you on the crazy question part of the speed date… but honestly, you can get a lot of information just from the crazy question I’m sure they were just tying to keep it light, break the ice and have fun. Sounds like you had a ball!  I think I’ll try that next time- keep me posted. In the meantime, I dealing with the dating sites for all the “so called” single people. I think that some people are confu … Read More

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What are the Rules of the Game?

Sometimes I feel like dating is a game where there are rules in play, I am just clueless as to what they are.  As a comedian I come across a wide range of people from celebrities to ex-cons (sometimes a combination of the two =) so I make an effort to judge people based on who they are and not what they have or what they do.  I honestly feel at the end of  a long day, I don’t want to have a conversation with an expensive car or designer clothes.  I want to talk to a person who is honest, kind and makes me laugh. 

Recently I met someone who really intrigued me and that hasn’t happened in like… well forever.  So I was excited, we hung out and it was really just plain old fun.  The problem was he doesn’t live in Chicago AND he’s a comedian. Two HUGE problems. First, I’m not really trying to do the long distance thing and second, dating someone you work with is just not a good idea. (not to mention sometimes comics can be “cuckoo for coco puffs”). So I really had no expectations and was surprised we kept in touch.  Things seemed to be cool, I went on vacation and didn’t text him for a couple of days and he sends this text message “guess you found a new man – that’s cool”. At first I thought he had to be a joking right? Even still I assured him I was still interested.  He said he hadn’t heard from me so I really couldn’t be.  Uh, wow, ok….. Anyway that was last week, this week I called him (once) left a message, I sent a text no reply, so I sent another stating I guess he’s to busy to text these days.  I get a text message back saying he’s out of the country, relaxing, not sure when he’ll be back, and won’t be texting for a few days, cause he’s “writing in his head” . WTF??? YOU DON’T KNOW WHEN YOUR COMING BACK TO THE UNITED STATES???I mean one week I go from not contacting him enough to basically disturbing his oh so deep “within his head” writing process, with a simple “hello, how are you?” text message? Sorry my mistake, I was under the impression that he actually WANTED me to contact him, because (and this is the killer) he said he wanted me to contact him. As a comedian myself I respect the writing process but not the snippy text message.

Sooooo easy come easy go while this indeed caused me some irritation today so long, farewell, no hard feelings.  Getting a text or call from me going forward is the last thing he will ever need to worry about.  I’m just irritated that I actually was starting to like him, that I broke a few of my own rules to do it only to have it end with a don’t call me I’ll call u text…

Ok, guess the first rule of dating  is never break the rules you set yourself, you put them there for a damn good reason so stick with what you know.  Playing by imaginary rules that may even change week to week, well it just plain sucks.  Guess this wouldn’t be an adventure without a few pitfalls…

Speed Dating….maybe a bit to fast

I recently went to a speed dating event held in the South Loop, here in Chicago. My first, I was a speed dating virgin as they say. Everyone at the event was african-american, employed, and educated (I think) which was cool. All the women were seated and the men rotated which was also cool since I was wearing heels. I must mention here that most of the men were had to be under 5’9 since I seemed to tower over everyone. They coordinators started each “speed date” with an ice breaker question. The ice breaker questions usually sucked and just waisted time in my opinion. I mean if I don’t really care if a guy has an inny or outty.  Then you only had 90 seconds to date.  90 seconds to show the other person how great you are, it was interesting. How do you put your best foot forward in a minute and a half?  That is a skill for sure.  With 90 seconds what do you ask a guy? What do I really need to know?  What is funny is what guys feel the need to tell you in 90 seconds…If its that you smoke weed, you may be a little to ghetto for me.  So no love connection just yet.  I have a dating event coming up next week, this time I will have my 90 second commercial ready to rock and roll!!