How 2 get over the break up of an non-relationship…

First I will answer the underlying question what is a “non-relationship”… Well I would call it an extended one night-stand… a booty-call that persists over months or years.  However, you look at it a casual albeit sexual relationship is what I would call a “non-relationship”.

Sooner or later all “non-relationships” come to an end.   Often it may take at least one of the parties a while to realize it has ended. Since this is a “non-relationship” there is no requirement of a note or the typical “break-up” conversation.  Often times one party simply stops returning the calls and/or texts of the other party.  Suddenly the other party realizes “damn, I’ve been dumped” which as a dumpee (yes even I have been dumped, shocking I know) is never fun.  While there are a plethora of books on the break-up of relationships  I have been hard pressed to find much out there on the break-up of “non-relationships”.  I mean come on, how do you get over a late night booty-call that has gone on for years???? There must be something?? Do they think just because there is no “official” relationship that no feelings are involved? Soooooo not true, relationship or not u may miss them when they’re gone so I have some suggestions (things I’ve heard ;-))

  1. Stop all contact once you finally realize you have been dumped…no since in giving that idiot ammunition to drink and laugh at with his/her friends;
  2. Self Improvement – Living well is the best revenge, and also a lot of fun so go for it after being “dissed”; Buy something new, Wear something new, hell become someone new but “Just Do It” and of course take every opportunity to flaunt it in the dumper’s face…
  3. Find someone new…now of course this person is the rebound person so don’t take it tooooo seriously because after a few weeks you may feel TOTALLY differently; but nothing really helps you get over a booty-call than… guess what? A brand spanking new, smarter, richer and of course more attractive, even better booty call!! If you find your true everlasting love that would absolutely destroy your non-relationship partner so go for that as well!!
  4. Shower repeat steps 1,2, & 3 !! Now in the rare instance when as the dumpee you may be filled with not only sadness and loneliness but also anger I have one more suggestion that I caution you to take therapy before,during and after if you decide to do it….  If you feel the dumping was inappropriately handled, and as the dumpee you were not  given the adequate respect a booty-call is due well… (I don’t encourage, recommend or take any liability for the following idea)
  • Violence to property (specifically a car, motorcycle, or boat) Now I AM NOT ENCOURAGING VANDALISM… However, a slashed tire, keyed car or the old sugar in the gas tank can do wonders for getting over how you’ve been wronged although the time in jail contemplating a “non-relationship” is never pleasant…. and if you happen to hook-up with someone who does not have a car (as I unfortunately did at one point) again see ITEM NO.  3  U CAN DO BETTER!! REALLY!! 🙂

xoxoxoxoxo

 

Vacation Flings….Fun or Fake?

Sooooo, first I will apologize for not posting at all for the month of July or August….Not quite sure where the time went.  Karma and I promised fun, excitement, thrills and we will deliver it to our readers and ourselves!!! RIGHT KARMA?????  Fall is now upon us…gotta get the love train running before it gets to cold for fun (never:-) .  It would be nice to have some winter romance in front of the fire-place this year, so to step it up a notch I’ve gotten on Match.com gonna put internet dating to the test…

To jump-start the excitement, Karma and I went on a road trip.  This was a mini-vacation to celebrate my birthday.  I’m part West Indian (my father’s from Antigua) so we decided to take a road trip to Caribana which is held ever year in Toronto, Canada.  It’s usually the last weekend in July, its parties, a parade with bright costumes and amazing Reggae and Soca music.  WE HAD A BLAST!!!

Now no vacation is complete without a some romance right? So Karma and I got our flirt on…The question is how far should you go when having vacation fun? Does it simply end once you head home? I met 2 really interesting men…both pretty good-looking.  I was to much of a nerd, or punk, or well just plain nervous to “seal the deal” so to speak with either guy.  The irony is that one guy was from the midwest, super nice and SEEMED to really like me we exchanged numbers, I sent a text a few times but heard nothing…. The other guy was sexy, Jamaican, and wouldn’t even give me his last name…he’s the one that keeps in touch.   Sooooo, do you live in the moment have the most fun you can and just let it drop?  I’m not really sure, in the end I was grateful I didn’t let things go further but sometimes I wonder…Nothing ventured nothing gained?